Archive for child support

January 29, 2010

Taking a break from the grind.  Been cataloging books all day to fill in for the cataloger who is out for a couple of weeks.  besides it gives me a break from the aspects of my job which have been aggravating me lately.

I am probably about an hour’s worth of work away from finishing the scarf.  Hoorah.  We are supposed to get a bit of winter storm this afternoon and tomorrow, so the timing is good.

I finished the bear.  I have to mail him to his new owner soon.

It’s going to be a very rough February for Donnie and me, financially.  I am trying to set myself up for being strong, but we are so badly off I am prone to get really depressed.  I have already been having the mental gymnastics I maintain when going down that depression track.

I started another blog for noncustodial parents to gather.  All you ever hear about in the news are the “deadbeat dads” who never pay child support.  but you don’t hear about the very unfair laws regarding child support payments and how they often debilitate the noncustodial parent.  What really aggravates me (understatement) is how there is no accountability necessary by law to ensure the child support is actually going to support the child instead of funding a slush account for the custodial parent.  We have no say over what the boys eat, when they go to the doctor, etc., but we live hand to mouth while the ex-spouse has put nothing aside for the boys’ future.  Instead she takes vacations (some without the boys), gets meals prepared and paid for by her own mother who lives next door (and who babysits, thus there is no need for paying a babysitter), and does nothing to better her situation.  She makes (and this is all part of the facts discussed in court, so we know the figures) a paycheck that is not enough to cover her own basic needs, yet she continues to insist on more money so the boys can dress in Abercrombie, Aeropostale, American Eagle, all the hot brands.  One of the boys just got a laptop, and he is not even 15.  We pay full health insurance on the boys; pay 2/3 of a monthly salary to child support (and that is regular payments; nothing is in arrears); and still have to pay 59% of all medical co-pays for appointments she makes and doesn’t bother to tell the father.

Damn it I am too pissed to go any further.

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